Dating a Married Man – The Pros and Cons of Living in the Now

Have you ever considered dating a married man? Well close to fifteen percent of married women have affairs. That is around 45 million American women who would be interested in living a ‘bit on the side’. Here are some of the pros and cons of dating married men.

It’s New!

Many women claim that the best sex they have ever had was with a married man. The woman is interested in having an affair it is usually because she wants sex or better sex than she is currently getting. She isn’t likely to be looking for love or romance. A married woman having an affair is only committed to the affair in a sexual way and not in an emotional way, which will usually result in great sex!

The Adrenaline Rush Someone Might Find Out

There is a certain amount of excitement when having an affair due to the secrecy element. When you meet the man you will do so in a place where you won’t be seen. You might meet at a motel during your lunch break or even sneak away for a naughty weekend. The excitement of meeting in secret and not getting caught will add excitement to the relationship.

Another advantage is that you don’t need to worry about the relationship getting too serious. Dating single men can often result in the woman wanting something more from the relationship than the man does. When you are dating married women, the woman is already committed to her husband and will not expect you to get involved in the more serious details of her life.

“Don’t leave a piece of jewelry at his house so you can go back and get it later; he may be with his real girlfriend.”
― Amy Sedaris

The Cons of Dating a Married Man

Firstly, her husband may find out about the affair. If her husband discovers that his wife is having an affair, anything can happen. His reaction may be mild and he may just insist that the affair end. He may react more harshly and insist on a divorce because of her infidelity. In some cases, men have even been known to become violent with their wife or the man she is having an affair with.

Secondly,  the downside to dating a married man is that you may actually fall in love with the man. You may find that you want a more meaningful relationship with him but he may not be willing to sacrifice his marriage for you. You could end up heartbroken for a man that you cannot have.

Lastly, you need to consider the moral aspect of having an affair. If you fall in love with this man and he does leave her family for you, you could be breaking up her family. Even though the affair may start off casual, it can become more serious which can have disastrous effects on his family, in particular, if he has children.

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Don’t rush into dating a married man, you really need to weigh the pros and the cons and decide if this is really what you want to do.

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